“I should” often means “What I’m doing isn’t enough”
I should _______
We don’t even need to give an example because odds are – something popped into your head immediately.
Quick assessment – did it make you feel better or worse?
Has it ever led you to action?
We all do things that are bad for us.
We don’t need to add to it by “shoulding” ourselves.
Change behavior, or don’t.
And of course, it’s really not that simple.
Choices are complex. Decisions are layered, and we might be addressing the wrong part of it.
Change “I should” to “When ______ happens I will do _____ by ______”
Or something like that.
Make it easier to follow through by attaching a plan and a date.
Relieve yourself of some of the guilt.
We try our best to do the same.
And you shouldn’t let others should you either.
“You should” often means “I want you to”
But it might not be right for you.
DO IMPROVE. DON’T GET IN YOUR HEAD ABOUT IT.